Rape culture is telling a female celebrity she “should have worn underwear~” instead of confronting how it’s really fucked up that men can make a living by forcibly shoving camera lenses between young women’s legs every time they leave the house.
Rape jokes are unacceptable and should not be tolerated under any circumstances.
Many teenagers are living half their lives on social media sites, and they’re writing the rules as they go. One online trend 16-year-old Temitayo Fagbenle finds disturbing is something she calls “slut shaming” — using photos and videos to turn a girl’s private life inside out. Temitayo reported this story as part of the Radio Rookies program at member station WNYC.
In the Puritan times of the 17th century, shaming women as in Nathaniel Hawthorne’sThe Scarlet Letter for their wanton acts was a whole town effort.
Today, this so-called slut shaming has a new tool. Instead of the town square, some people now turn to social media sites to share explicit photos and videos to shame these women and girls among their peers.
A recent Facebook posting I saw had a picture of a half-naked girl, lying on bed. The boy who posted it tagged the picture so that everyone could see it and go to the girl’s page. Within less than an hour, the photo had about 443 likes and 261 comments. Comments like “your life is officially shot LMAO,” and “I think she gonna cut her veins when she see this.”
People post these pictures and videos and make “smut lists” for their neighborhood or school.
The boy who put up the picture posted a status update saying he received 2,000 friend requests because of the photo; and things like this are a regular occurrence at my school.
Two years ago, when I was in ninth grade, a girl in my class faced a similar situation. Her boyfriend put an intimate video of them up on the Internet, and suddenly everyone was talking about it. “He was going around holding his head high,” the girl says. “He gave me a bad name.
Talking to a group of girls at my school about this online slut shaming, some of them say they often feel the need to shame other girls for their improper behavior. “They do it to themselves,” one girls says. “Half the time we can’t even blame the guys.”
They do say, however, that it’s not always the girl’s fault and that often the girls are photographed and recorded without knowing. “That’s not fair that a guy can actually hide his phone, have sex with you and record you, and then show it to his friends,” one girl says.
When I was talking to the girl this happened to, she said she didn’t know she was being recorded. “I kind of had a feeling that something was wrong, but I didn’t want to believe it,” she says.
At school, she was hoping that it wouldn’t be too big of a deal, but even the principal knew about the video. He brought her to his office and called her mom.
“I couldn’t even look at my mother because I felt hurt and I also felt that I disrespected her,” she says. “I didn’t want kids in the school to look at my mother and be like, ‘Wow, she raised nothing.’ “
I see girls get exposed like this on my Facebook newsfeed almost every day.
As for the schools, they have had to take on a new role. Some students take screenshots of the cyberbullying they see online, print them out and bring it to their teachers as evidence.
In cases where somebody might put up a sexually explicit video, Erica Doyle, the assistant principal at my school, says school officials absolutely contact the authorities. “Because once we’re dealing with digital media that is sexually explicit [and] that has been captured and shared with the public, that actually now is a criminal matter,” Doyle says.
Teenagers today aren’t necessarily crueler than they were in the 1600s. It’s just that now when we chastise each other, everybody who has access to the Internet can see it. And once that picture or video is out, you can’t be completely safe in your mind that the past won’t creep up on you at some random time.
This is the new scarlet letter.
”Boys are told from a young age that whatever they do will be excused under the “boys will be boys” mantra, and that “boys will be boys” mentality leads to what I call the “BOILING FROG” problem of women’s sexual boundaries. I call it that because if you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will jump right out, but if you put a frog into a pot of room-temperature water and slowly heat it to a boil, the frog will acclimate as it heats and never jump out, eventually boiling to death. Similarly, when we learn as young girls to tolerate “low-level” boundary violations like the ones we often are forced to suffer in silence at school, at home and on the street – bra-snapping, boob-grabbing, ass pinching, catcalling, dick flashing “all in good fun” relentless violations that adults and authorities routinely ignore – it makes it harder for us to notice when even greater boundaries are being violated, eventually leading to the reality that many women who are raped just freeze and fall silent, because that’s what they’ve been taught to do over and over since day one. You tell me what’s more infantilizing: repeatedly letting boys (and grown men) off the hook for their behavior because “boys will be boys” and we can’t ever expect any differently, or creating a consent standard in which all partners take active responsibility for their partner’s safety, and which acknowledges the truly diseased sexual culture we’re soaking in every day.”
I saw this ridiculous post that made me pretty angry, so…
False rape accusations are extremely rare! Extremely. I know there are men who have some misogynistic imagery of evil, angry women holding rape as a trump card over them, but it’s not accurate.
Rape cases tend not to result in a conviction (only 9% ever go to trial and only 3% of rapists will ever spend a day in jail [x]) - if you were trying to get revenge on someone through the criminal justice system, this would not be your best shot.
Rape cases they tend to put a victim on trial - and air out all of her or his private information. Despite what people like to pretend, society doesn’t care about rape victims unless they fall under some perfect victim archetype - and most do not.
If someone wanted to get back at you, they probably would not do so by accusing you of rape. At least 54% of rapes are never reported.
People will bring up the percentage of false rape allegations as 8% (or even higher), using the FBI’s statistics. This number is not the percentage of rape allegations that are fabricated, but rather the percentage that are “unfounded”. Unfounded does not mean false. In the largest study thus far, a 2005 study (Kelly et. al), a lower number of 3% was found.
Additionally, jurisdictions that report to the FBI have varying definitions of “unfounded” making the term meaningless. Individuals within the justice system have bias as well. So the 3% number is also likely to be lower, particularly taking into consideration the fact that the majority of rapes are not reported to begin with.
Police officers and courts also tend to dismiss rape allegations as unfounded due to:
- a victim delaying a police report or not undergoing a medical exam
- a victim blaming themself
- a victim’s previous relations with the offender
- a victim’s use of alcohol or drugs by the victim
- no visible proof of injury
Plenty of victims are in a horrible state after being raped - and having their bodily autonomy invaded - and many are not thinking of or willing to submit to a medical exam in such a vulnerable state. We live in a rape culture - part of rape culture is that consent is portrayed as blurry and grey (when it really is not at all), so many victims do blame themselves, initially or forever. Rape is still rape even if your rapist is a friend, coworker, date, or partner. Rape is rape if you’ve consented to something else or consented at an earlier date. You are unable to consent if you are intoxicated. And plenty of rapes do not involve injury. None of those situations makes a rape illegitimate or false, yet it affects statistics. Additionally, victims may recant allegations or testimony due to intimidation or reliance upon their rapist.
Most women will not sling false rape accusations at men for revenge. It’s illogical and impractical, and it’s a heinous crime to fake. Stop pretending that it’s common for women (or anyone) to make this up. If you act like it is, you’re a horrible person and dead wrong.
Embedded in porn are numerous other myths, all of which seek to present sexual assault as a consensual act rather than an act of violence. One way to illustrate this is to select examples from porn that reinforce the myths:
RAPE MYTH: Women don’t know their own minds; men know better what women really want and need sexually.
PORN EXAMPLE: “Lystra is homesick and wants to move back to Korea. Professor Lawrence… knows what’s best for his best students-like his cock inside her moist, little hole.”
RAPE MYTH: A woman might not want it at first, but once she gets a taste of hot sex, she can’t get enough.
PORN EXAMPLE: “Katie was a bit reluctant at first but after two hard cocks stretched her tight ass wide open she screamed with
RAPE MYTH: Women are by nature sexually manipulative.
PORN EXAMPLE: “Jaclyn Case is pretty smart about how she tricks boys into coming over and giving IT to her. She’s also pretty specific about how she wants her pussy serviced.”
RAPE MYTH: Women are sluts who get what they deserve.
PORN EXAMPLE: “Gia is a nasty little whore that can’t seem to get enough cock. We make sure this slut gets what she deserves and more!”
RAPE MYTH: All women are whores at heart and want to be fucked by any available man.
PORN EXAMPLE: “Vanessa might seem like a sweet girl, but deep inside, she’s a whore wanting big white dick.
Not every man who uses porn will swallow these rape myths whole. To argue such a point does not account for the variations that exist among users and would reduce the effects debate to one effect-rape. But what anti-porn feminists are saying is that such myths promote a culture that will affect men in myriad ways: some will rape but many more will beg, nag, and cajole their partners into sex or certain sex acts, and more still will lose interest in sex with other human beings. Some will use women and disregard them when done, some will be critical of their partner’s looks and performance, and many will see women as one-dimensional sex objects who are less deserving of respect and dignity than men, both in and out of the bedroom. Whatever the effect, men cannot walk away from these images unchanged.
**please do not remove artist’s comments or repost this comic!!!**
okay so i finally finished this comic for my design class! i might eventually print it in small booklets or make multiple episodes/issues if enough interest is expressed. if you reblog this and you would be interested in purchasing/reading issues of this or comics like this, please say so so that i can gauge whether or not this is something i should pursue! <3
the final image is what the back cover will look like if i print it!
EDIT: the phrase “sorry my friendship is a crappy consolation prize” is adapted from a post by tumblr user pampampam! sorry, i meant to credit it and i was so relieved to have finished that i forgot to add this when i first posted.
final for my 2D foundation class.
i wanted to approach the issue of society vilifying women for their sexual decisions.
things may or may not change before i print them on sunday, idk.
I love it!