er uh . god I literally hated all of my “first times”. The first PIV was not consensual. the first consensual PIV was with a shitty boyfriend who shut down in the middle when he found out I wasn’t a virgin (see previous sentence). All other sexual events before that were the results of being prey to predators online. I will say the first time with my second BF made me fee so sexy and desirable..
TW: Rape - Indian women protest rapes & violence, demand accountability
June 3, 2014
Indian police used force and have fired water cannons to disperse hundreds of mostly female protesters in Uttar Pradesh state where two teenage cousins 12 and 14 were gang-raped and hanged in a tree. Police have detained five people, including two policemen, in connection with the attacks.
The protesters, many of them women, were demonstrating outside the office of state chief minister Akhilesh Yadav.
New rapes were reported from Meerut, Firozpur, Fatehpur and Bareilly where a 22-year-old woman was killed after her attackers gang-raped her and forced acid down her throat. Sex crimes in Uttar Pradesh have hit international headlines following the rape and hanging of two girls, aged 12 and 14, who had gone out to relieve themselves at night in Katra Saadatganj village, Badaun district, last week.
Reports also came in on Monday that a woman was allegedly gang-raped and thrown in a ditch in Sofipur village under Basai Mohammadpur police station of Firozabad district. She was spotted by police and admitted to the local government hospital.
The rapes in Badaun have laid bare the reality of caste atrocities in the hinterlands of India. Four of the five suspects are from the Yadav community, a powerful land-owning caste that holds political sway in Uttar Pradesh. The victims were from the Shakyas, by tradition peasant farmers who are often vulnerable to exploitation by the Yadavs.
Five people, including two police constables Sarvesh Yadav and Chatrapal Yadav, have been arrested in the case so far. Three other accused are Pappu Yadav, Awadesh Yadav and Urvesh Yadav of the same village.
I’m pissed that they never showed dany’s female paramour. We can see the rape of women, violence against women and the men’s various boring sex scenes, but god forbid we see two women enjoying themselves without the goal of pleasing a man
imagine. this little shit feel entitled to sex before he is 22 tho. meantime how many women gotta sit their asses down and have their virginity tightly held until marriage or whatever because of men. And if they went on a rampage there would be NOTHING but condemnation. But this fucker…
don’t forget the girls who are
coerced RAPED at a young age and their sexual debut becomes a haunting flashback as oppose to a fond memory. like?? aren’t we entitled to even live?
we need to talk about desirability because it endangers our lives. we need to talk about how we feel ugly and hideous and so unfuckable/undateable and how that pushes us to accept the scraps of crumbs off people’s laps. how someone’s flirting makes us feel special, and soon we’re kissing and touching and maybe fucking but this isn’t what we truly want. we like the touching, we like this because we’re told that when someone kisses you it means they like you. it means you’re pretty and worthy of someone’s attention. it means you are valid. you are validated by sex and desire.
we need to talk about how desirability shoves women/femmes into sex work because they might feel that no one would love or touch them otherwise.
we need to talk about how desirability makes us feel after a few months, a year, two years of not going on a date or having sex makes us crave that kind of attention. how we allow someone we feel lukewarm towards into the altars of our bodies just to feel pretty for maybe a moment, a few minutes, a night.
we need to talk about how desirability is tied into white supremacy. how ugly we are is justifies violence in a court system and in our communities (including feminist / QTPOC communities)
we need to talk about how desirability plays into rape and abuse culture. “that ugly bitch deserved it” is something i’ve heard and something that should have never been spoken.
we need to talk about this because too many people are being abused and exploited because of their beauty, ugliness, and all the nastiness in between.
[TW/advisory: rape mention & snuff-porn mention]
Let me tell you something from my experience as a trafficking survivor. The johns [male buyers of the prostituted], these are the very people who do not want prostitution abolished, these are the same ones…[that] with them it’s ‘My-Dick-Comes-First’, it’s their privilege. Their nice lives, their good jobs, to hell with some poor girl’s human rights that just got violated.
[And] if they don’t want to be ‘outed’ then why are they being johns? Why would they willingly want to use their money and their privilege to support this heinous institution and that’s precisely what prostitution is Jody. It is an institution. Why would they support that? Why would they knowingly [support that] if they ‘…don’t wanna’ be found out!’? Well then, why would you want to participate in it by being willing to pay money for rape-on-demand-‘sex’. Obviously you don’t want to have it with your wife or girlfriend for a good reason and that is probably because it is something really disgusting that she has every right to refuse you to do to her.
…If these johns really wanted to stop it [prostitution] they’d have a very simple thing to do and that is not participate in this calculus of evil, this economy of destruction, this economy of gyno[?]-caust.[unclear]
…Now, everybody/[the global community]’s been aware of trafficking and they have accepted it as, ‘This is O.K to do to an entire class of women.’ That an entire class of women can be thrown away for men to, - excuse my language -, fuck to death. So, nobody can tell me that, ‘We need awareness’; everybody was aware, what was [happening] was that everybody didn’t care.
…You [Jody] know who Andrea Dworkin was? (Jody: - Yes). She’s not only known for being a Radical Feminist but she was also a human trafficking survivor and she, with the assistance of a law professor and lawyer named Catharine Mackinnon compiled testimony before the Meese Commission. Andrea Dworkin testified of trafficking, she testified of the reality of snuff-porn: where women are actually murdered. And these snuff-porn films, I’ve actually traced the money flow, there’s a big market in the pacific rim for this, where the average going rate for a snuff film is two-hundred-and-fifty-thousand-dollars ($250,000). I talk about this in my book "Without Apology" and I talk about the [Robert] Pickton case in there, because, at my own expense, after asking for donations, because I don’t have an income except for that people buy my books which I’ve written and self-published five to date, the most recent one being Without Apology.
- in which I discuss and criticize the very social structures that create and maintain a trafficking problem and a prostitute class…
An interview with sex trafficking survivor Jacqueline Homan, author of Without Apology.
Donate to Jacqueline here.
Again, these are the people anti-sex work advocates want to trust to ‘rescue’ women.
Instead of me having to explain why I don’t like rape jokes, how about you explain why you find them funny.
The only headline I need to see today.
Everyone: this post is really fucked up stop reblogging this with just that headline. This is really trans misogynistic and awful and just… I’m pretty sure the sex worker Glenn Miller slept with is a trans woman reporters are claiming was “a man masquerading as a woman” and how Glenn Miller claims he intended to beat: http://nymag.com/daily/intelligencer/2014/04/kkk-leader-caught-with-a-black-male-prostitute.html It’s possible police catching them doing sexual acts was catching Miller assaulting/raping her or ultimately stopped him from beating or killing her because Miller says that was his intention, we don’t even know what happened to her because the story is fucked up and cares more about the sensational story of a KKK member supposedly having “gay sex” than what happened to a Black trans woman WHO WAS TARGETED BY A VIOLENT MURDERER AND MAY HAVE BEEN RAPED OR HARMED. Who is a human being who I’m sure police arrested and perhaps brutalized and is probably in prison right now, probably with male prisoners and still in danger. Who knows what is going to happen to her or happened to her.
Also I don’t want to see this man’s face on my dash without trigger warnings. I don’t want to see this man’s face ever again—he committed hate crimes against Jews and I’m sick of seeing his face. And just think about the fact that’s it’s supposed to be lol so funny and contradictory that a KKK member would have sex with a Black trans woman when it’s really not that funny and racists use PoC as sex objects all the time. I knew this post was wrong before I even checked the source and found out it was transmisogynist.
Just this post is fucked up in so many levels and y’all should have checked your sources and known better. You are SPREADING the misgendering of a trans woman and all kinds of other fucked up stuff with this post. Just stop.